Episode 17: Modern Parenting Tips & Skills, A Conversation with Laura Pierce, M.S., LMFT-S, RPE, IMH-E
On today’s episode, Laura Pierce returns for Part Two of the Modern Parenting series - this time diving deeper into a parent’s relationship-focused way of teaching, learning about, and connecting to their child. Laura’s insight and knowledge, gained from both personal and professional experience, are a must-listen for anyone who is a parent, is expecting/planning to become a parent, or just knows someone who is!
EPISODE NOTES:
The goal is to teach your child “All feelings are okay, all behaviors are not.”
Oftentimes, misbehavior is a child’s expression that a need is not met or a skill is not had.
In order to determine if it is the right time to correct, punish, or call out your child’s misbehavior, turn to HALT. If your child is hurt, angry, lonely, or tired - now is not the best time to try and correct the misbehavior.
These feelings really impact a child’s behavior and how they show up.
A child’s behavior is their communication - they are trying their best to communicate to us how they’re feeling, what they’re needing, what they’re missing.
It is a common occurrence that parents miss out on an opportunity to use their relationship to their child to help them, rather than just parenting, punishing, using strategies.
When we want to discipline our children, our goal should be to teach them, not to punish them.
Parenting is a series of decisions based on your relationship with your child over and over and over again.
How you approach a situation as a parent is a lot more important than the actual situation itself.
However you choose to approach a situation is really rooted in your ability to self-regulate. How you choose to regulate or not is what contributes to the relationship.
Children use play as their main communication strategy - they use play to regulate, to learn, and for comfort.
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Find out more about Laura and her practice here.
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