Episode 34: Men, Intimacy, and Becoming Relational Again, A Conversation with Hayden Lindsey, LPC
Today's conversation is one for our generation to tune into. If you're in a relationship to a guy, or if you identify with the male experience personally, it's incredibly important to tune into the conversation today with Hayden Lindsey, LPC and relationship expert. Liz and Hayden discuss the gendered socialization of boys and men, The Man Box, and deepen our understanding of the impact these societal influences have on men's ability to be relational, intimate, and have healthy self-esteem. Check this one out and as always, leave us a review!
EPISODE NOTES:
The way men are brought up in society does not set them up to be good at intimacy.
More and more men today are seeking out therapy both for themselves and for their relationships.
Our culture distorts intimacy for both men and women, however women are still taught to value it.
Our world turns boys into men through injury.
Masculinity is performative.
A lot of men have learned to develop relations through microaggressions.
The primary agent in The Man Box sort of mindset is shame. Being in a state of shame is not compatible with intimacy.
Shame and grandiosity are BOTH anti-relational.
While we certainly grow and get to much healthier places of functioning, the work is never done.
The biggest three types of shame for men are Provider, Protector, and Lover shame.
Resources:
Check out Hayden’s practice Austin Intimacy Solutions.
Listen to Hayden’s podcast, Therapy on Tap.
Follow Hayden on Instagram @mensintegrationwork.
Learn more about Paul Kivel’s The Man Box here.
This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.
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